Gaslighting Examples
In this list, I would like to show you how gaslighting works in classic, a gaslighter and a gaslightee, style. Please check “Group Gaslighting Examples” for group level examples. The list below are possible senarios that gaslighting occur. As these examples are caused by individual gaslighters, the effect would be relatively less hurm than the group oriented ones. I added these examples to clarify the difference between gaslighting done by individual level and by the groups working for gang stalking. Each gang stalking members may use gaslighting in individual level, so please be aware of these scenarios.
-
Your boss tries to put down anything you do. Anything you try to please him does not work. He just keep find fault of you to blame of your job performance. It causes you to feel depressed. (Cause: Your boss is nervous about you. You might be a hardworking worker, but he could have a fear that he is not really that kind and felt pressure from your performance.)
-
Your coworker tries to accuse you for your small mistakes in group works. Some of the tasks he is accusing are done by both you and him. But he complains openly that your part was not good enough and caused his part shoddy. When you try to tell his part also has some sloppiness, he does not try to listen and keep speaking up your fault was large. (Cause: your coworker may thinks you as a rival in his career path. He tries to put down you so he won't be looked below you.)
-
Your professor gives you hard grade and criticizes your effort in your study. He seems stressed when you visit his office to ask questions. He might give extra credit works for other students to make up their final grade while he does not mention you about it. (Cause: He might see you as a stereo-typed image of your ethnicity or your gender. Some old-fashioned people have beliefs that particular people are inferior. He might not like you because of your appearance which he thinks not to fit his classroom.)
-
Your aunt is over-protective and demands everyone in her relative to take her suggestions. You feel tired after you talked with her on the phone. On her daughter's birthday, she asked you to come because you are her cousin. You tried to make excuse as you cannot miss your work nor travel to her home few hours away. Besides, she called you few days before the birthday party. She blames you of your coldness to your cousin and keeps persuading you to come to the party. (Cause: She has a fear of family separation. She is needy and feels lonely when she cannot get attention from others.)
-
Your girl friend expresses jealousy whenever you talk to woman while you are with her. She blames you of cheating her. You have to explain it was only a necessary conversation to order drinks during their date. Then she says how she saw you seemed to be cheered up by the waitress' complement on your clothes. You know it is one way to raise her tip by saying good to a dating couple. She keeps complaining about the incident for rest of the date. You now know that this happens almost every time you go out with her. (Cause: Your girl friend is insecured when you talk with other women. She does not have confidence in herself and that causes her to fear that you might find another girl who is more attractive than her.)
-
Your son criticizes you for not being a good father/mother. He believes that if he was born in a better parents' home, he could get more opportunities in his life. He complains about how less he could afford for his education and how his peers get more goods and gifts from their parents. When you try to explain that your family cannot be like his friend's family who own a private company. Whenever you communicate with your son, it ends up in frustration. (Cause: Your son are under serious peer pressure. He knows he cannot make equal to his wealthy friend, he have to complain it to his parents to make him believe that is not his fault to have less opportunity in his life.)
11/12/07