Escaping from the "gaslighting" network
To gain the sense of who you really are, you must keep your head clear from your surroundings. If you have been surrounded by the gaslighters, what you see in everyday life is different from what you used to see in your life. According to The Gaslight Effect, Dr. Stern suggests the gaslighting victims to stay away from the gaslighting relationship. She warns that such decision would cost the breaking-up with the gaslighter. If you are targeted by the group of strangers working on gaslighting, what you can do is to avoid the communication with them or at least keep the it minimum.
The organized stalkers purpose is to make persuasion and try to dominate you. It might sound strange if a group of strangers are trying to work on such strategy, yet it is true. If you have contacted with one of them, you can learn how they make suggestions for you. For instance, if you want to complain about the stalkers to your friend, you might find your friend's friend gives you an advice to visit a therapist. In another occasion, your neighbors chose you to be responsible for the local neighborhood watch program or something, then they start to complain the problems to keep you busy for your new responsibility. As you are planed to fail in their tasks, and they would make a rumor that you are quite useless in the area.
Gaslighting is a psychological abuse. It is hard to recognize as the technique is often implanted in everyday conversation.
At first, you have to understand that you cannot change the gaslighter's mind. Instead, you must keep your sense of being, and you must be aware of the power relationship between you and the gaslighter. I am not saying that you must always on the top of the relationship. What you have to do is to be aware that the gaslighter's opinion is not necessary to be as same as yours. You can always have your own voice, and you do not have to speak it up if you think that would make the relationship complicated. You must keep your own opinion as yours.
Then, keep the distance from the gasligher as much as possible. If your gaslighters are organized stalkers, what you can do is try to ignore them. If you cannot ignore them in some occasion, what you can do is try to concentrate on correcting the information about them. This will help you to think about what your gaslighters are doing rather than what they say or what they do. Observe what they are doing and write them down in a piece of paper. It will make you to focus on writing rather than their gaslighting.
If you know who are working on the gaslighting, put them into the 'gaslighter' category. It will be your 'black list' in your communication. When you contact with them, try to remember that you are not the one apologizing or feeling shamed on the conversation. Instead, try to be alert on what they say to you. This will help you to understand why you wanted that person to be on your 'black list.'
Make new friends from random places and keep a shallow relationship with each other. This will help you to stay away from gaslighting. Gaslighitng happens when you are volunarable to the person working on gaslighting. You must be aware of criticisms and persuasions from the people.
Spend your time in solitary entertainment. You can work on fitness alone with mp3 player. Or you can spend time reading an exciting book. Or play a music instrument. Or, simply draw pictures with your mouse using the MS Paint or other painting software you have in your PC. You can purchase textbooks and study a new language. If you want a long-term goal, you might want to enroll to on-line class so that you must spend few hours a day for that class. These are useful techniques to get away from the gaslighting network.
Reading books about gaslighting will help you to understand how the psychological abuse works and how to avoid such relationships. I recommend you to read Dr. Robin Stern's book, The Gaslight Effect. Dr. Stern explains several types of gaslighters such as romantic gaslighter. Her explanation might be much focused on the relationship between men and women. However, she gives many examples and some exercises for the readers to understand the gaslightings in everyday conversation. Another book is I Thought I Was The Crazy One by xxxx.
If gang stalkers are the primary people working gaslighting on you, then it would be impossible for you to keep gaslight-free. However, remember that you are the one who has choice to take their gaslighting or not.